COUPLES & INDIVIDUAL THERAPIST • SEATTLE + WASHINGTON
Kendall Matthews, MA, LMFTA
A relationship therapist for people who want to feel more connected—to each other and to themselves.
I’m Kendall, a Marriage and Family Therapist Associate in Seattle. I work with couples and individuals who feel stuck—stuck in the same relationship patterns, feeling disconnected, unsure about their relationship or future, or tired of taking care of everyone else while losing track of themselves.
For couples, that might look like having the same argument on repeat, feeling more like roommates than partners, struggling with communication or intimacy, or wondering how to actually enjoy each other again. For individuals, it can look like overthinking relationships, people-pleasing, difficulty setting boundaries, questioning whether to stay or go, or feeling uncertain about marriage, children, or what you want next.
I’m warm and pretty relaxed in the room, but I’m not a therapist who’s going to sit quietly and make you do all the work. I’ll get curious with you, point out what I’m noticing, and help slow things down enough that we can understand what’s actually happening underneath the surface.
My work is grounded in relationships because even when you come to therapy alone, the way you connect, protect yourself, ask for what you need, and make sense of other people tends to show up everywhere.
My clinical training has focused on couples and family therapy, with particular attention to relationship distress, communication breakdowns, emotional disconnection, intimacy, and recurring conflict patterns. I use Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), attachment-based therapy, somatic approaches, and parts work to help clients understand the patterns they get pulled into and create more room for connection, clarity, and choice.
Clients often come to me when they’re exhausted from trying to fix things on their own but still deeply care about the relationship, the decision in front of them, or the kind of life they want to build.
I offer in-person therapy in Seattle and virtual therapy throughout Washington, with a steady, compassionate, and direct approach to helping people feel more connected to themselves and the people they love.
I care a lot about doing work that’s thoughtful, grounded, and actually useful, not just relying on whatever sounds good in the moment.
My approach is shaped by training in couples and family therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy, attachment theory, somatic work, and parts work. I also continue to invest in training and consultation because relationships are complicated, people are complicated, and I want my work to keep growing too.
I’m less interested in fitting you into one model than I am in understanding what’s happening for you and using the approaches that help us get underneath the pattern.
Education & Training
Master of Arts in Couples and Family Therapy — Seattle University
Specialized graduate training in Family Systems Theory and Attachment Theory
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT) Externship
Gottman Method Couples Therapy, Level 1
Clinical Credentials & Memberships
Member, American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT)
Member, Washington Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (WAMFT)
What Supports My Work
What It's Like to Sit With Me
Warm + Direct
I’m supportive, but I’ll also tell you what I’m noticing. Therapy with me isn’t just nodding along—we’ll actually get into what’s happening.Curious about patterns.
I’m less interested in deciding who’s right and more interested in understanding what keeps happening underneath the surface.Serious when it needs to be, light when it can be.
Therapy can hold hard conversations and still have room for humor, personality, and being a real person.